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Let's talk about 'burnout'

6/22/2019

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Whether we are only a few days postpartum or a decade, sooner or later our busy schedules and full-speed lifestyles inevitably set us up for burnout. Some people prefer to be busy and ensure there is always something on the go, while others thrive on quiet time in order to recharge and have time to prepare for upcoming events. Regardless of whether we identify as introverted or extroverted, however, there are usually warning signs that signify our gas tanks are running low and perhaps it’s time to plan for some downtime.


Indicators of stress and burnout can come out in so many ways, but staying in tune with our bodies and paying attention to the people around us can help arm us with the ability to anticipate and hopefully avoid ending up with an empty tank. Personal experience has taught me time and time again that being proactive about protecting my time makes the difference between being able to tend to what I’m needing and stretching myself so thin that I end up in a hardcore state of burnout. The trouble with getting to the point where we are burnt out is that it is so much harder to be able to find a way out and recalibrate, than if we watch for the warning signs and do something in advance.




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​Below is a list with some of the common indicators that might be telling us our plates might be getting too full. Like I said above, though, every body is different and reacts to stress in so many ways. The best way forward is to keep checking in with ourselves so we can name our own indicators and go from there.

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1. If your head wasn’t attached, would you forget it?

    I am not sure if it’s my first indicator, but it’s absolutely the one that is the equivalent of sirens and neon lights for me telling me to turn around and go the other way. Say “NO” and do some self check in. Missing appointments, forgetting meetings, drawing blanks when you know there was something important that was just on your mind: these are just a few ways your brain might be telling you it’s reached capacity and needs a break. Not only do things like these end up with consequences like missed appointment fees, or peeved friends and coworkers, but they also add stress because you feel bad that you forgot. If you notice you suddenly feel like things are falling by the wayside no matter how many sticky notes and reminders you leave yourself, it’s time to ease up on how much you’re committing yourself to.


2. Do you turn into Sadness from Inside/Out or the Hulk at the drop of a dime?

    Hypersensitivity, irritability and crankiness that come out of the blue can be another way of our body slamming on the breaks. When we are running on fumes and have no time to breathe, we have no mental space left over for those little things that usually wouldn’t make us think twice. I’ve always used the metaphor of my emotional regulation reservoir having the capacity of a teaspoon when I’m burnt out. Sometimes it’s tears, sometimes it’s a full blown toddler tantrum, but with two pre-pubescent boys in the house and a hectic work schedule to juggle between my partner and I, that teaspoon fills up pretty quick before I end up having to lock myself away in a closet for some deep breaths for the sake of my family. If you are noticing you are not coping well with even the smallest things, think about whether or not you’re in need of a big cup of tea and a sit down with your day timer to figure out what is coming up and where you can block of some time to just be.
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3. Do social events and family time feel more like punishment than quality and fun time?

    It doesn’t matter if the Village People are making a special appearance, when my cup floodeth over with work/volunteering/meetings/extracurriculars, I end up dreading social events. Maybe sangria could persuade me… but mostly I just want my couch and no one needing me. Now, for some people social events feel like punishment no matter their schedule, but if you normally look forward to time with friends and suddenly wish you would get struck by the plague so you can duck out of that stag or stagette, you might be feeling overwhelmed by an overloaded schedule.


4. Instead of counting sheep when your head hits the pillow, are your thoughts more like a Red Bull-fuelled hamster running a marathon on a wheel?

    If insomnia is a new and uninvited guest in your sleep space and your nights are being disrupted by racing thoughts and anxiety, again, your body might be waving the white flag and asking for a mental getaway. Lists are useful to keep, especially if bed time is when your brain tends to start remembering the billion tasks you have to deal with, but they are only a short term solution to dealing with the stress of being overwhelmed.
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I often laugh when I get recommended to take some me time–what’s that?! Ain’t nobody got time for that. But truth be told, these bodies are the only ones we get, and our physical health is intrinsically tied to our mental health. Schedule a day, an afternoon or even an hour if you need some time away from phones, devices and commitments, and honour it like you would any of the other things you put on your schedule. Find what feels good to you, whether it is exercise, a bath, reading a book or a walk in the park, and prioritize that. Your body and brain will thank you! Hopefully after learning your stress and burnout cues the things that recharge you can become a part of your normal routine and help reduce the amount of time living in burnout limbo.


A lot of these issues can be related to other situations or conditions, and sometimes periods of hectic schedules are unavoidable, but these feelings and issues can absolutely help to narrow down if you are in need of delegating, deferring or delaying some tasks for the sake of your mental and physical health. Take some time to reflect on where you are at if you suspect you’re burning out. If you are really struggling with coping, it is so important to reach out to a friend, family member or doctor (or your postpartum doula!). Don’t ever feel like you need to just deal with it and push through when things start falling apart. ​

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Three Doula Approved Books

1/9/2018

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Is your desire to have an empowering birth experience? 
​Start with these three “doula approved” books.

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If you are giving birth in 2018, why not set an intention to empower yourself with all of the knowledge you can
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At Full Circle Birth Collective we are passionate at helping expectant parents start their journey into parenthood feeling informed and supported. It can be daunting looking through endless pregnancy books, not knowing which will be worth your time.Don’t worry, we have you covered to start the new year reading these “doula approved” books.
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1. Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, Ina May Gaskin
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​We cannot have a list of pregnancy books without including one from Ina May Gatskin. Ina May has been revolutionary in the normalization of natural Birth in North America. In 1979 she founded “The Farm” in rural Tennessee, one of the first birth centres in the United States. The incredible birth outcomes and statistics from The Farm gave Ina May a voice to promote midwifery care in US and abroad. Ina has published many books worth reading, but the most noteworthy place to start would be, Ina May’s Guide To Childbirth, which first starts with captivating birth stories from women who have delivered at The Farm and then practical advice to help you have your best birth outcome. 
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2. Birthing from Within, Pam England


​Birthing From Within by Pam England, brings a holistic and spiritual approach back to birth. Pam brings her vast knowledge from her over 20 years of work as a midwife to this book that gives practical and relevant advice for pregnancy all the way to postpartum. This book will empower you to consider birth as an act of self discovery rather than a medical event. 
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3. The Birth Partner, Penny Simkin


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​We can’t leave your support people out! The Birth Partner, by Penny Simkin gives guidance to any person who is supporting a mother through pregnancy, birth and postpartum. It takes the reader through the process of labour with explanations to guide you through any possible variables. No matter what the outcome may be, your partner will feel much more confident in their support after reading this book.
 

 Let us know in the comments if these are books you have benefitted from or any books that you would add to the list or any favourites that you think should be on our “doula approved list, we love feedback.

We will also be blogging about our favourite birth-related podcasts and documentaries on our sister website Full circle birth collective blog page.  


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What to expect when your Postpartum Doula arrives

1/5/2018

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So you’ve hired a postpartum doula or maybe someone gifted you with their services.
​What can you expect when they arrive?
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Well, a postpartum visit for us is always varied, depending where the family is in their postpartum journey.  Arriving to a new family home is an exciting time for us!
First, we normally check in with the mom to see what her immediate needs are.
​She is the priority you know! 

" Has she eaten recently?"
"Does she have a water or tea next to her to replemish fluids?"
​"Has she slept or showered?"
 
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Once we know the mom is comfortable, we can move on to feeding support, bathing tips or discussion about infant development. Generally, the first few visits with a new family we will focus primarily on the mom and baby - getting to know them, understanding what the priorities and what the concerns are. We may talk about the birth story or how the physical and mental changes of pregnancy and birthing has shaped us and changed the way we think. We may discuss other support they are receiving from their partner, family and friends and offer ideas or tips to help maximize the support they have. If support is minimal, maybe we can work on a plan to manage this life shift, so it’s not so overwhelming.
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Going into a home, we will usually do a quick scan to see if there are any immediate household tasks that need to be done, (don’t worry, we’re not judging! We are looking to see what might need attention and how we can help!)  If we get a few minutes, we can tend to these. This also might be one of the ways we can help you to utilize the support you have – by helping you make a list of things you need done! The pile of laundry that needs washing or maybe the dishwasher needs to be emptied and filled again. Of course there is also food. Prepping wholesome meals for the new family is a client favorite.  Perhaps we’ll slice and dice some veggies and fruit for easy snacking, or throw a meal in the crock pot so when dinner arrives it’s as easy as opening the lid and serving. Maybe it’s making a batch of muffins or cookies to have on hand to get through those midnight feedings, or filling water bottles to stash around the house, so when mom has a moment of thirst she isn’t scrambling around to find a drink.
We love helping and tending to siblings and pets as well. Every visit is different and unique.
We follow our families lead and hope at the end of our time together we’re leaving our clients armed with the tools and resources to feel confident and capable no matter what the future brings.  
A postpartum doula is there to support the decisions of the family, never to push an agenda.
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So when we visit, you are our guide.
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When we leave a home after a visit, we try to check in again to see if the mom needs or wants any resources specifically sent to her or brought next time we visit. We love providing evidence based research to new parents to help answer questions and eliminate the stress of wading into the never ending opinions and websites on Google.
So there you have it!

What did you need more of in your postpartum weeks? What did you love having support on?
​Tell us your stories! 


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What is your postpartum plan?

11/9/2017

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Often when a family is preparing for a baby to arrive you typically see two schools of thought.
One, the soon to be mom and dad focused on the pregnancy.
From ultrasounds, to pregnancy apps, to online forum groups discussing everything from diaper choices to what size fruit resembles the growing human inside mom’s belly. It’s a fun, exciting time and understandably all these things are new and fascinating, so getting caught up in it, seems natural and it is really something wonderful to celebrate.
​The other thought wave is usually focused a bit more on the time after baby arrives, but it’s usually around nursery colors, baby clothes, car seats and strollers . 
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​Something rarely discussed however is the mother herself. 
​You can be set up for success to take care of a newborn, but how can you be set up
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For instance, what does recovery really look like?

What can you expect during those first 6 weeks physically, mentally and emotionally?

What foods are good for replenishing and nurturing a mother after she’s had a
​baby, or what nutrients can help with milk supply?

Is there someone who can come to listen to her if she wants to process her birth story
or discuss the raw emotion of becoming a parent? 

What about support to help guide new parents with feeding tips, infant behaviour,
​and sleep states?

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Not to mention the regular household chores needing to be maintained - laundry, meal prep, light housekeeping.  What so many new families don’t realize is how taxing those first few days and weeks are on the family, but to the new mom specifically. Usually the first few days is a mix of euphoria, adrenaline and excitement, but then it usually quickly turns to exhaustion and a state of constant unknowns. It can be so difficult for parents to process that, when they are also trying to keep a new baby content. Add in a sibling or a pet and you’ve got yourself a bucket full of emotions and nowhere to go with them.

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Enter a postpartum doula.  


A woman who with education and experience is able to assist in mothering the mother. Someone who can provide unbiased evidence based research on everything from breastfeeding, to sleep habits, to maternal mental health. Someone who is able to efficiently listen and acknowledge that everyone’s journey is their own, and that it is impossible to hear the same story or situation twice.  A woman who knows enough to calm, connect and support when it’s most important. Being nurtured in those first few weeks can be a very empowering process if you have the right support and reassurance surrounding you. Planning for your personal care after the birth is just as important as planning those beautiful nursery colors, picking the perfect name, and welcoming a new family member to your life.

So what is your postpartum plan?


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